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Taking It To Heart

4/11/2016

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by Lisa Howington

I recently had an experience that left me reflecting on how I expect my children and my students to respond in difficult situations.

As adults, I think that we sometimes expect more of children than we are capable of ourselves. When children or my students come to me and say that someone called them a name or said something that hurt their feelings, I intervene to ask for apologies and then expect them to let it go and move on. We have dealt with it, and now we have to put it behind us. ​
However, someone recently called me a negative name, and as an adult, I could not let it go. I could not move on. I knew that what they said was not true. I could hear myself saying to students in the past, “Is what they said about you true? If not, what does it matter what they say?”  

I learned it matters because it hurts my heart that they think that about me. Sometimes we say an apology cannot take away the pain, and moving on is not always easy to do. If I struggle to let it go as an adult, how can I expect a child to do it with ease?

The name that I was called was a harsh one, and it was meant to hurt, but where children are concerned, who decides what name is especially cruel? What should or should not hurt someone’s feelings?

No matter how small or trivial the name or comment seems to us, we should take a child seriously when they come to us and say that their feelings have been hurt. We should hear them out, and we should not expect them to move on with ease. No matter how much we wish it wasn’t true, what others think of us does have an effect on us.
1 Comment
Brandy Fenderson link
4/12/2016 08:31:35 pm

Lisa, you are spot on! The way we feel matters.

I also like how you took the time to reflect, "Is what they said true?" Even if we know in our heart of hearts that it isn't true, I think it is useful to ask ourselves, 'What made this person think that way?" How did they interpret what I did (said) different than the way I intended.

Even if something is not true, the way it makes us feel is very real!!!

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